Who said the easy part was the beginning

One way relationships are defined as is “the connections between two or more people or groups and their involvement with one another, especially as regards the way they behave toward and feel about one another”. Some are good and some are bad but past relationships shape us on how we associate with new people. When the first few ones that could have ended in a long loving sessions end in one cheating, one leaving, or something simple as the love growing apart, then skepticism enters the mind. Just as it would enter someone’s mind who bought 3 bad cars from the same dealer or having 3 bad meals from a certain restaurant, the direction or thought process changes. I always said that guys didn’t start out as players or girls didn’t start out as heart crushers. It is all a cycle that is learned. I look at it like this… a guy got his heart trashed by his first love now he wants to retaliate. He then dupes his next girl and beats her heart down by playing her. A vicious cycle has started with just two and it multiplies from there. Then to compound the issue, they watch a friend or family member run through men and women at a cyclic rate which enforces the behavior. It takes a strong moment and two strong individuals to beat this cycle once they are invited to play. We can’t always assume one can just break through and just roll into a relationship without reservation… it will like everything else worthwhile take work. Not work to maintain it… work to get it legitimately initiated which is where most fail….